Are you a super nice guy who women often have as a friend rather than a boyfriend or a lover? Have you gotten a dear john letter saying how nice and wonderful you are, but it just won't work? What is wrong with the picture here?
Well, there are just a few basic tips that you should know before you try to win the heart of the woman you desire.
RULE #1..LIKES ATTRACT LIKES...if you want a woman who is sexy, funny, intelligent, and good-looking...are you that as well? If she spends her time looking good and staying in shape and always be open to learning new things...most likely, she will expect the same from you. Trust me on this...some women are too nice to say their thoughts out loud to you. they usually just make up a bunch of excuses about why they can't go out with you. (examples...she has issues, she's too busy, her cat is dying, or she's not ready to date right now)
RULE #2..GENTLEMAN ALWAYS PAY...Where i come from, if you are a brother, a friend, a relative, a neighbor, or a husband etc... as long as you are a male and out in public with the ladies... you should always pay. It shows that you are in charge and you can protect the ladies. People will often look down on you if they see you with a woman and she has to open her purse. Now of course, once you are seriously dating, i am sure that does not matter as much since the communication will be between the two of you. Now i am trusting that you are smart enough to know the difference between a gold-digger and a genuine lady.
I am not able to speak for all the ladies, but i am speaking from personal experiences. I am smart, successful and very attractive. I meet men everywhere i go. I have been very fortunate to have dated many quality men, they were cosmopolitan, intelligent, still with a touch of old-school mentality. One of the ways i would test out a man before agreeing to have dinner alone with him is...i bring my girlfriends out for drinks...and if he does not pay for them and make them feel taken cared of..then he won't see me again...back in my experimental 20's, i would email him or leave a message on his voicemail rejecting his 2nd date in a very hesitant and nice tone. Sorry if some of you have experienced this before.
Gentlemen, do you always pay? even when a woman insisted that she would pay?
RULE #3..to be continued...
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6 comments:
i once took a male friend out for his b-day, i gave him my cc card to pay at the end because i was embarrassed that someone might see me pay for a man.
female
29 years old
i don't see anything wrong with that. as long as you made it clear to your friend why you did it. :)
what if he's poor? i mean yes, he pays for the first few dates, but how long can you expect it?
until it becomes a serious relationship where it does not matter who pays... challenge him to work hard for it...is he ambitious or just laid back day by day attitude? if ambitious and a manly man..he would never let the woman pay...too much manly pride.
great advice. i never mind paying for a lady, even if she is only a friend. It's something i was taught when younger.
38 year old male
pennsylvania
good for you.and of course, if you have ladies who always want you to spend money on them and don't offer to cook you dinner or do other nice things, just forget them...:) give, and you will get...
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