okay gentlemen, so i thought i must share something with you that happened on friday night...I met a group of my friends at a chic local hotel bar for drinks before we head out to our usual salsa dancing. One of my friends brought a guy she just started dating along.. she told me that she is not sure if she will join us for dancing since the guy does not dance and is not interested in latin jazz either...so i told her to challenge him and invite him to see what he would say. What a good sport he was. He said, "i have not been before so i will give it a try". That right there earned him 10 bonus points for saying that.
Well, let me tell you. He was a very attractive guy...nice,too. When we got there, he was enjoying himself moving along with the music even though he did not know the steps. At one point, i taught him some basics and he did great. The ladies were checking him out. One gal next to me said" this guy is cute, is he with one of you?" so funny... Like i said..places where you can find plenty of attractive women and very few attractive men are salsa and ballroom dancing venues. So if you are good-looking and trying to learn how to dance, don't be surprise if you have ladies wanting to be your dance partner.
Just google salsa, tango, or ballroom dancing in your city and you will find many places to go...going early and taking the lessons will help you at least get the beginners' steps down. Also, a good site to join to get more tips on the rules of attracting beautiful women is http://www.themysterymethod.com/, but be careful, some of the tips can be a bit manipulative, and those are the ones you do not want to use of quality women because they will know...
Well, talk to you, soon. and do let me know if you decide to take up a dance class...or one suggestion, watch "dirty dancing" with patrick swayze to get started. He 's smart, good-looking, a stud, and he can move...
Sunday, February 17, 2008
Monday, February 11, 2008
"Likes Attract Likes"
Good day gentlemen, i hope you did not miss me too much :) So as i have promised you before where i will go into each of these rules on "how to catch and keep a quality woman"and elaborate for you.
#1 on our list is "likes attract likes". We all know we are who we attract or they often say you can tell what a person is really like by the friends and people they spend their time with. And that includes when a quality woman sees you out in public. Not only will she observe your posture, your appearance, and your mannerisms, but also who you are with at that time and what you are doing. I am sure that men think the same way on this matter.
Let me ask you this...What kind of woman would you like to meet?
Go down the list and check next to the ones that are important to you......
1___sexy
2___intelligent
3___honest
4___good-looking
5___extrovert
6___sensitive
7___independent
8___feminine
9___loving and affectionate
10___takes good care of herself inside and out
11___dresses well
12___great lover
13___good cook
14___cultured
15___creative
16___good dancer
17___successful
18___career minded
19___animal and nature lover
20___into sports
21___loves to travel
22___spontaneous
23___family oriented
24___does not use unpolished language
25___charming and funny
26___someone who would be a great mother to your children
27___your best friend
28___someone who loves life
29___positive
30___poised with manners
Ok..so have you checked the list yet?
Now...look over the list and ask yourself. What have you been doing and where have you been spending your time? For example, would the kind of woman you 'd like to meet go to bars or the gym on a regular basis? Or does she go to charity events, art openings, yoga, or dance classes? Or what should you be doing differently to attract the kind of woman you want in your life? Do you possess the same qualities that you desire of her?
Most american men today have 5 things in common...food, sex, football, the gym, and politics....honestly, this is the absolute truth! It's ok to be into all of those, but being addicted to it where you can not go a day or two or even live without it is a bit sad. Did i forget to mention the remote control,too?
There are so much more to life like the arts, music, philanthropy, picking up martial arts, yoga, philosophy, reading books, spirituality, traveling, soccer, hockey, baseball, basketball, tennis, golf, dancing, spending time with your family.etc.
If you have been doing things and living your life a certain way and you are happy, i congratulate you. If you are over 37 and still bar hopping and drinking with your buddies hoping one night you will meet the woman of your dreams, then i suggest you get down from the clouds and start taking some action. :)
Most attractive single women have their act together. They have many hobbies and interests...They don't go to bars unless they are checking out a new posh place, catching up with friends they have not seen, networking, or if it's charity related. These women spend their free time learning, growing, and filled with interesting adventures leading towards their long term goals. They take care of their sexy bodies, so doing late nights out drinking and socializing with non-intelligent random men is not always their cup of tea.
I have been very fortunate to be courted by many handsome, intelligent, and successful men in the past. But why has it not lasted? That is something i am still trying to figure out for myself :), but one thing i do know for sure is their addiction to work, the gym, and football made it very easy for me to loose interest or shall i say disappear? :) I like a man who is able to balance and live his life to the fullest, someone who can prioritize and have no addictions (smoking, sex, drinking, drugs, food, sports,ect.shall i list more? ) but for me, most importantly, someone who does not grow old inside and someone who i can not outgrow in the game of life. He, like myself is passionate about life and someone who can be spontaneous when need to. Until i meet my man, let's talk about you....:)
One thing you can do to meet more beautiful quality women is try taking dance classes (tango, cha cha, swing, salsa, any ballroom..etc) You will find some of the sexiest and the most beautiful women there...I can't say the same for men, but definitely plenty of attractive women. So if you are a good-looking guy and you are learning how to dance...i can guarantee you that you will be the center of every woman's attention on the dance floor even with two left feet.
A woman or a man who dances will make a great lover in bed. Dancing has many health benefits in addition to enhancing your sensuality. Google it and you will find a ton of articles on the benefits of dancing.. It also heightens your romance radar. The other key thing you want to do is stand out from the crowd, especially from the men you are with. Brand yourself so you stand out from the rest of the guys. If a beautiful woman sees 10 hot men of the same level and quality, she will not be able to make a decision. But if you market yourself in such a way where you stand out from the others, she definitely will be focusing straight at you. Do you know what is sexy? A masculine-confident man that does yoga or martial arts to stay in shape instead of the gym...:)
To wrap up on this rule...whatever it is you want in a woman, you should be able to offer the same or something of equal...if she is exciting, you must be as well to keep up with her in the adventures of life :) Any questions or comments? feel free to ask me.
Read more about "like attracts like" go to http://polishedbytu-anh.blogspot.com/
#1 on our list is "likes attract likes". We all know we are who we attract or they often say you can tell what a person is really like by the friends and people they spend their time with. And that includes when a quality woman sees you out in public. Not only will she observe your posture, your appearance, and your mannerisms, but also who you are with at that time and what you are doing. I am sure that men think the same way on this matter.
Let me ask you this...What kind of woman would you like to meet?
Go down the list and check next to the ones that are important to you......
1___sexy
2___intelligent
3___honest
4___good-looking
5___extrovert
6___sensitive
7___independent
8___feminine
9___loving and affectionate
10___takes good care of herself inside and out
11___dresses well
12___great lover
13___good cook
14___cultured
15___creative
16___good dancer
17___successful
18___career minded
19___animal and nature lover
20___into sports
21___loves to travel
22___spontaneous
23___family oriented
24___does not use unpolished language
25___charming and funny
26___someone who would be a great mother to your children
27___your best friend
28___someone who loves life
29___positive
30___poised with manners
Ok..so have you checked the list yet?
Now...look over the list and ask yourself. What have you been doing and where have you been spending your time? For example, would the kind of woman you 'd like to meet go to bars or the gym on a regular basis? Or does she go to charity events, art openings, yoga, or dance classes? Or what should you be doing differently to attract the kind of woman you want in your life? Do you possess the same qualities that you desire of her?
Most american men today have 5 things in common...food, sex, football, the gym, and politics....honestly, this is the absolute truth! It's ok to be into all of those, but being addicted to it where you can not go a day or two or even live without it is a bit sad. Did i forget to mention the remote control,too?
There are so much more to life like the arts, music, philanthropy, picking up martial arts, yoga, philosophy, reading books, spirituality, traveling, soccer, hockey, baseball, basketball, tennis, golf, dancing, spending time with your family.etc.
If you have been doing things and living your life a certain way and you are happy, i congratulate you. If you are over 37 and still bar hopping and drinking with your buddies hoping one night you will meet the woman of your dreams, then i suggest you get down from the clouds and start taking some action. :)
Most attractive single women have their act together. They have many hobbies and interests...They don't go to bars unless they are checking out a new posh place, catching up with friends they have not seen, networking, or if it's charity related. These women spend their free time learning, growing, and filled with interesting adventures leading towards their long term goals. They take care of their sexy bodies, so doing late nights out drinking and socializing with non-intelligent random men is not always their cup of tea.
I have been very fortunate to be courted by many handsome, intelligent, and successful men in the past. But why has it not lasted? That is something i am still trying to figure out for myself :), but one thing i do know for sure is their addiction to work, the gym, and football made it very easy for me to loose interest or shall i say disappear? :) I like a man who is able to balance and live his life to the fullest, someone who can prioritize and have no addictions (smoking, sex, drinking, drugs, food, sports,ect.shall i list more? ) but for me, most importantly, someone who does not grow old inside and someone who i can not outgrow in the game of life. He, like myself is passionate about life and someone who can be spontaneous when need to. Until i meet my man, let's talk about you....:)
One thing you can do to meet more beautiful quality women is try taking dance classes (tango, cha cha, swing, salsa, any ballroom..etc) You will find some of the sexiest and the most beautiful women there...I can't say the same for men, but definitely plenty of attractive women. So if you are a good-looking guy and you are learning how to dance...i can guarantee you that you will be the center of every woman's attention on the dance floor even with two left feet.
A woman or a man who dances will make a great lover in bed. Dancing has many health benefits in addition to enhancing your sensuality. Google it and you will find a ton of articles on the benefits of dancing.. It also heightens your romance radar. The other key thing you want to do is stand out from the crowd, especially from the men you are with. Brand yourself so you stand out from the rest of the guys. If a beautiful woman sees 10 hot men of the same level and quality, she will not be able to make a decision. But if you market yourself in such a way where you stand out from the others, she definitely will be focusing straight at you. Do you know what is sexy? A masculine-confident man that does yoga or martial arts to stay in shape instead of the gym...:)
To wrap up on this rule...whatever it is you want in a woman, you should be able to offer the same or something of equal...if she is exciting, you must be as well to keep up with her in the adventures of life :) Any questions or comments? feel free to ask me.
Read more about "like attracts like" go to http://polishedbytu-anh.blogspot.com/
Friday, February 1, 2008
Rule #10...Be Ambitious
Ambition, the last, but most important rule of catching a quality woman's heart. It is the one quality that makes a man very sexy and wanted by most women. It is the reason why you see many average looking men, bald men, and men with beer bellies with HOT and SEXY women. There is something very intriguing and captivating about a man who is goal oriented, hard-working, and a strategic risk taker. It speaks power, challenge, leadership, decision-maker, and success. It tells us that you are not afraid of failure. So we know that if we were to commit to you and build a family with you that we would feel secure in times of hardship.
If you don't already possess this trait, check out some great books to read that might help you understand better...The Millionaire Mind, 101 Distinctions between Success and Failure, What Got You Here, Won't Get You There, Napoleon Hill's Keys to Success, and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Donald Trump, Warren Buffet, Hugh Heffner, and Bill Gates are also good examples of ambitious men.
Well Gentlemen, these are your 10 basic rules of capturing the hearts of sexy and intelligent quality women. In the next few weeks, i will start to elaborate on each one of these and examples for you to execute on. Good Luck! This is a challenging journey, but if you see yourself being with most amazing and attractive woman, having the most passionate love-making, with beautiful children and a big house with white picket fences...then..let's start to polish up some traits that you already have...stay tuned...i shall be back soon...
If you don't already possess this trait, check out some great books to read that might help you understand better...The Millionaire Mind, 101 Distinctions between Success and Failure, What Got You Here, Won't Get You There, Napoleon Hill's Keys to Success, and The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Donald Trump, Warren Buffet, Hugh Heffner, and Bill Gates are also good examples of ambitious men.
Well Gentlemen, these are your 10 basic rules of capturing the hearts of sexy and intelligent quality women. In the next few weeks, i will start to elaborate on each one of these and examples for you to execute on. Good Luck! This is a challenging journey, but if you see yourself being with most amazing and attractive woman, having the most passionate love-making, with beautiful children and a big house with white picket fences...then..let's start to polish up some traits that you already have...stay tuned...i shall be back soon...
Rule #9...Communicate!
When it comes to the area of communicating with attractive quality women. Just remember three things...
1. Women like to talk. They ask questions in order to get to know you and establish any kind of relationship with you.
2. Listen...and i don't just mean listen in silence. Show that you have a personality by looking at them in the eyes, express your opinions and thoughts, and ask questions. You'll have her thinking "what an interesting guy you are"
3. Be Confident. Your posture can tell a lot about you. Stand up straight, smile, and make eye contact, speak clearly and use your masculine tone. I have met some really hot men, but when they started talking, it turned me off because they don't communicate clearly and they spoke a bit to softly and shy. That to me, shows insecurity.
Here are some sites you can check out for more info on how to communicate with women: http://ezinearticles.com/?Coaching-Men-How-To-Communicate-Suavely-With-Women&id=382826, http://www.marsvenus.com/, http://www.phobias-help.com/effective_communication_skills/Teaching_Men_On_How_To_Communicate_With_Women.html
1. Women like to talk. They ask questions in order to get to know you and establish any kind of relationship with you.
2. Listen...and i don't just mean listen in silence. Show that you have a personality by looking at them in the eyes, express your opinions and thoughts, and ask questions. You'll have her thinking "what an interesting guy you are"
3. Be Confident. Your posture can tell a lot about you. Stand up straight, smile, and make eye contact, speak clearly and use your masculine tone. I have met some really hot men, but when they started talking, it turned me off because they don't communicate clearly and they spoke a bit to softly and shy. That to me, shows insecurity.
Here are some sites you can check out for more info on how to communicate with women: http://ezinearticles.com/?Coaching-Men-How-To-Communicate-Suavely-With-Women&id=382826, http://www.marsvenus.com/, http://www.phobias-help.com/effective_communication_skills/Teaching_Men_On_How_To_Communicate_With_Women.html
Rule # 8... Honesty Is The Best Policy
Ok gentlemen, this is a very important tip. Just be honest when it comes to dating a quality woman. She might not want to hear what you have to say when it's negative, but she will appreciate and respect you for your honesty. Quality women are very intuitive. So if you are not honest, they will soon find out. Steven Gaffney said in his book "Just Be Honest" that when you are honest with people, you train and condition them to be honest back to you. Save yourselves some explanations by being truthful and upfront in the beginning. Quality women are straight-forward about what they want. They don't like to waste time. Men who are honest and upfront with them will earn bonus points and will have a special place in their hearts.
I was seeing this guy for a while, and he was MR. HONESTY. We went out one night for dinner and he told me that he hated the babydoll dress i was wearing. OMG! no guy ever insulted me like that my whole life! Not even my brothers. Well, it took me 15 minutes to get over being upset, i ended up changing to a more form fitting dress and he loved it. The empire waist was in style at the time and i like to be in the know with fashion, but i realized that to men, it makes you look pregnant :) I have not worn a babydoll dress since. Although it was not what i wanted to hear, but i now appreciate him for being honest with me. I am a heterosexual. I dress to impress myself and to attract men. So when a quality man tells me that, i know i better listen to him. :)
I was seeing this guy for a while, and he was MR. HONESTY. We went out one night for dinner and he told me that he hated the babydoll dress i was wearing. OMG! no guy ever insulted me like that my whole life! Not even my brothers. Well, it took me 15 minutes to get over being upset, i ended up changing to a more form fitting dress and he loved it. The empire waist was in style at the time and i like to be in the know with fashion, but i realized that to men, it makes you look pregnant :) I have not worn a babydoll dress since. Although it was not what i wanted to hear, but i now appreciate him for being honest with me. I am a heterosexual. I dress to impress myself and to attract men. So when a quality man tells me that, i know i better listen to him. :)
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Rule #7...Be Mr. Manners
Gentlemen, i know with the feminist movement and all, you might not think chivalry is important anymore, but it is to a quality woman. Remember to walk behind her, open the door for her, pull her chair when she's about to sit down or stand up, take her coat, walk beside the curb, and look at her in the eyes when she is talking to you. If she gets cold, offer your coat even though you might be freezing...if she is carrying bags, offer to carry them for her, at a party or bar, offer to refill her drink... when flying, offer her choice of window or aisle, and even better...at end of date, make sure you get a cab for her and give her fare...
The art of chivalry is something classic, something sacred, something masculine. Men should never forget that. Any woman who does not appreciate these acts of courtesy are just confused about her sexuality and her femininity. She will wear you down by constantly challenging you and trying to be your equal. I can't tell you how many times i have rejected a guy for a second date because of one of the above reasons. Sorry, i am just old fashion that way, but ask any gorgeous and quality woman. She will tell you what is a date breaker when it comes to the chivalry department. If you are not so refined in this area, probably you did not spend enough time with your mother when growing up or you don't have sisters to teach you this stuff. But don't worry, all this can be learned. Check out The Etiquette Advocate. Nancy Mitchell offers many really good etiquette classes and training sessions.
I once was seeing a really nice man who was intelligent, funny, good-looking, and generous, but he had very poor gentlemanly behavior when it comes to taking me out in public. He would walk in front of me, sit down first at the dinner table, choose the window or aisle for himself, and would not turn his cell phone off while he was out with me. But the good thing was he listened to me when i explained why that was important to me and eventually he caught on. By the time we ended our courtship, he was a true gentleman. We are friends now and get together once in a while and i often will compliment him for his manners :) Whoever he is seeing now is one lucky lady. He's perfect! :)
The art of chivalry is something classic, something sacred, something masculine. Men should never forget that. Any woman who does not appreciate these acts of courtesy are just confused about her sexuality and her femininity. She will wear you down by constantly challenging you and trying to be your equal. I can't tell you how many times i have rejected a guy for a second date because of one of the above reasons. Sorry, i am just old fashion that way, but ask any gorgeous and quality woman. She will tell you what is a date breaker when it comes to the chivalry department. If you are not so refined in this area, probably you did not spend enough time with your mother when growing up or you don't have sisters to teach you this stuff. But don't worry, all this can be learned. Check out The Etiquette Advocate. Nancy Mitchell offers many really good etiquette classes and training sessions.
I once was seeing a really nice man who was intelligent, funny, good-looking, and generous, but he had very poor gentlemanly behavior when it comes to taking me out in public. He would walk in front of me, sit down first at the dinner table, choose the window or aisle for himself, and would not turn his cell phone off while he was out with me. But the good thing was he listened to me when i explained why that was important to me and eventually he caught on. By the time we ended our courtship, he was a true gentleman. We are friends now and get together once in a while and i often will compliment him for his manners :) Whoever he is seeing now is one lucky lady. He's perfect! :)
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