Rules Continue...#3

RULE #3..NEVER GIVE UP YOUR MANHOOD...I am sure some of you can relate to this. Quality and attractive single women get hit on and flirt passes by men 24/7; at a bar, a museum, the grocery store, the coffee shop, facebook, myspace, the subway, walking their dog, and even at work, etc... So you have to play the game to catch her attention and stand out from the rest. Which means... don't loose your masculinity. The truth is women in general love Alpha males. What does that mean? It means you are the leader. You don't wait around for something to happen. You take charge and make it happen yourself. Alpha males can be cocky and funny, and it can sometimes offend the overly sensitive people, but for confident and attractive women, it shows you are daring and comfortable under your own skin which can make a women secretly imagine how fun it would be with you under her sheets :)

When it comes to attracting quality women, you can spoil her rotten and give her just enough attention, but don't worship the ground she walks on. When you have plans to go out, don't let her take charge..take initiative, make the plans, even tell her their is a dress code...trust me...she will be impressed. I have gotten into situations where the guys asked me out and then told me to choose and pick whatever i like to do and they will go along. BORING! Attractive women are feminine, so they expect you to be masculine, not a girly dude.

RULE #4..BE YOURSELF...Yes, gentleman, please be yourself. We attractive single women hear numerous pick-up lines all the time that when a man just comes straight out and say " I want to go out with you", in a charming way, it's just OOH SO SEXY! Attractive and intelligent single women are sharp and witty. They can converse with all kinds of people in any given situation. They were taught by their mothers and grandmothers how to understand and seduce men. They know what men to pay attention to and what men to avoid. They are confident about themselves. So the next time you want to come up and talk to an attractive woman, use this line :) "I find you very attractive, are you available for dinner this week?" Trust me, a quality woman will find that very stimulating. Let me know how it goes if you try that line.

I once had a guy come up to me at a bar in Georgetown and said "how old are you? do you have a boyfriend?" I was annoyed at first, but it made me curious about him. We ended up dating for almost 2 years. He later told me i looked young that night and wanted to make sure i was over 21 (what a nice compliment!:) I also told him that i thought his directness was different and that was what caught my attention. Why did it not work out? Lack of spontaneity and creativity. That is another story i 'll have to share with you on how to keep a woman interested later :)

RULE #5..BE POLISHED...Yes, that's right. First impression counts and that includes appearance. I am not saying you have to be a James Bond or a walking Calvin Klein ad. But please, have some sort of fashion sense along with social intelligence. Single attractive women take care of themselves from the scent of their hair to matching lingerie to some sort of excercise (yoga, dance, gym, etc...) in their daily routines. Making a comment about how nice a neckline is on her top or the elegant simplicity of the necklace she is wearing will definitely add bonus points. When a man takes care of himself inside and out, it shows that he is confident and values who he is as a person.

RULE #6.. BE POSITIVE...Have you seen the movie "The Secret"? If you have not seen it, definitely, check it out. The law of attraction states.."you are who you attract". A smart attractive woman enjoys life. She is happy and healthy. She smiles a lot and complains very little. A big turn off to her is a man who does not see life in a positive light. So please, get rid of your personal dramas, unresolved childhood issues, or any insecurities that might get in the way of catching her attention. Believe me, she is not stupid and will soon find out who you really are. Single attractive quality women lead very busy and interesting lives. They don't have time for bad boys or challenged men.

Have you dated women with issues or full of drama in the past? Why is that? My theory about that is women who go after bad boys are boring and don't find their own lives interesting. Men are the same. If your life is already interesting, then you don't need to look for excitement. You only want to look for someone who is positive and wonderful to share the excitement with, don't you agree?

RULE #7... to be continued...

Rules of Catching and Keeping a Quality Woman.

Are you a super nice guy who women often have as a friend rather than a boyfriend or a lover? Have you gotten a dear john letter saying how nice and wonderful you are, but it just won't work? What is wrong with the picture here?

Well, there are just a few basic tips that you should know before you try to win the heart of the woman you desire.

RULE #1..LIKES ATTRACT LIKES...if you want a woman who is sexy, funny, intelligent, and good-looking...are you that as well? If she spends her time looking good and staying in shape and always be open to learning new things...most likely, she will expect the same from you. Trust me on this...some women are too nice to say their thoughts out loud to you. they usually just make up a bunch of excuses about why they can't go out with you. (examples...she has issues, she's too busy, her cat is dying, or she's not ready to date right now)

RULE #2..GENTLEMAN ALWAYS PAY...Where i come from, if you are a brother, a friend, a relative, a neighbor, or a husband etc... as long as you are a male and out in public with the ladies... you should always pay. It shows that you are in charge and you can protect the ladies. People will often look down on you if they see you with a woman and she has to open her purse. Now of course, once you are seriously dating, i am sure that does not matter as much since the communication will be between the two of you. Now i am trusting that you are smart enough to know the difference between a gold-digger and a genuine lady.

I am not able to speak for all the ladies, but i am speaking from personal experiences. I am smart, successful and very attractive. I meet men everywhere i go. I have been very fortunate to have dated many quality men, they were cosmopolitan, intelligent, still with a touch of old-school mentality. One of the ways i would test out a man before agreeing to have dinner alone with him is...i bring my girlfriends out for drinks...and if he does not pay for them and make them feel taken cared of..then he won't see me again...back in my experimental 20's, i would email him or leave a message on his voicemail rejecting his 2nd date in a very hesitant and nice tone. Sorry if some of you have experienced this before.

Gentlemen, do you always pay? even when a woman insisted that she would pay?

RULE #3..to be continued...