Gentlemen, i know with the feminist movement and all, you might not think chivalry is important anymore, but it is to a quality woman. Remember to walk behind her, open the door for her, pull her chair when she's about to sit down or stand up, take her coat, walk beside the curb, and look at her in the eyes when she is talking to you. If she gets cold, offer your coat even though you might be freezing...if she is carrying bags, offer to carry them for her, at a party or bar, offer to refill her drink... when flying, offer her choice of window or aisle, and even better...at end of date, make sure you get a cab for her and give her fare...
The art of chivalry is something classic, something sacred, something masculine. Men should never forget that. Any woman who does not appreciate these acts of courtesy are just confused about her sexuality and her femininity. She will wear you down by constantly challenging you and trying to be your equal. I can't tell you how many times i have rejected a guy for a second date because of one of the above reasons. Sorry, i am just old fashion that way, but ask any gorgeous and quality woman. She will tell you what is a date breaker when it comes to the chivalry department. If you are not so refined in this area, probably you did not spend enough time with your mother when growing up or you don't have sisters to teach you this stuff. But don't worry, all this can be learned. Check out The Etiquette Advocate. Nancy Mitchell offers many really good etiquette classes and training sessions.
I once was seeing a really nice man who was intelligent, funny, good-looking, and generous, but he had very poor gentlemanly behavior when it comes to taking me out in public. He would walk in front of me, sit down first at the dinner table, choose the window or aisle for himself, and would not turn his cell phone off while he was out with me. But the good thing was he listened to me when i explained why that was important to me and eventually he caught on. By the time we ended our courtship, he was a true gentleman. We are friends now and get together once in a while and i often will compliment him for his manners :) Whoever he is seeing now is one lucky lady. He's perfect! :)
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i agree with all this. but i only learned after i climbed the ladder in my career. by servicing and entertaining my male and female clients weekly, it became by habit that i was a gentleman around the ladies. if you do something long enough. it just become part of your routine.
D. Higgins
Boston, MA
yes, D. you are right. by having manners, you will impress the ladies, but also everyone around you. they will respect you as a gentleman so much more. and around children, you will set a good example for them to follow.
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